Ep 03 Your Small Skills Can Actually Be Your Biggest Asset
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What if the abilities you overlook are the foundation of your next breakthrough?
What if the skills you’re dismissing as “not enough” are actually the foundation of your next big idea?
What if someone once told you that you weren’t skilled enough—but they were completely wrong about what you’re capable of?
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🌿 Welcome to The Multipassionate Soul
I’m Crystal —Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, creative entrepreneur, and multipassionate just like you.
For over twenty years, I’ve shifted careers, started businesses and wrestled with that same feeling of too many passions, not enough clarity. And what I’ve learned is this: your mix isn’t the problem—it’s the path.
Here, we turn scattered into strategic and help you finally move forward. Every other week, we’ll blend evidence-based psychology with practical business strategies to help you find clarity of direction, confidence in your decisions, and stability in your career and finances.
Because you don’t need to fit into one box—you need the clarity and confidence to weave your passions into a life and business that actually work for you.
💬 The Day Someone Told Me I Had No Skills
Years ago, I worked for a doctor I deeply admired—but she was a micromanager with sky-high expectations.
Almost daily, she’d correct how I spoke to patients or answered the phone. One day, after a long shift, she called me into her office and said, “Crystal, what do you plan to do with your life? You don’t have an education. You don’t have any skills.”
Those words landed like a punch to the gut.
I remember driving home, sobbing in my little MR2 the whole way from Long Beach to Studio City. I wasn’t just hurt—I believed her.
At the time, I thought, “She’s right. All I can do is write resumes.”
I completely belittled my own ability.
But here’s what I didn’t see then: I’d been writing resumes since I was 14—and everyone I ever helped got the job.
It wasn’t just about writing resumes. It was about helping people get employed, feel confident, and rebuild their lives. That’s not a “small skill.” That’s transformation.
And that’s when I realized: it’s not about how impressive your skills look on paper—it’s about what those skills create for others.
🌱 Big Vision Starts With Small Skills
Your skills will only be as “small” as the vision you attach to them.
When we shrink our vision, even our strengths look insignificant. But when we expand our vision, even simple abilities become powerful.
For example, take Dana White, president of the UFC. His net worth is over half a billion dollars—not because he invented something entirely new, but because he saw bigger possibilities within a sport people already loved.
So imagine someone told Dana White-level thinkers, “All I have are resume skills.”
Their response might sound like this:
“Build an international employment agency that lifts a million people out of poverty. Run free workshops teaching interview confidence. Partner with global companies to create fair-wage opportunities.”
Same skill—bigger vision.
It’s not about the skill itself. It’s about what that skill produces.
💡 Even “Outdated” Skills Can Evolve
Maybe you’re thinking, “But Crystal, there are templates everywhere—and AI can write resumes now.”
True. But AI can’t sit across from someone, notice their posture, or coach them through the fear in their voice before an interview.
Even if a skill feels outdated, you can upgrade it by asking: “How can I evolve this?”
For example:
- Pair your skill with technology.
- Offer it in a new context or industry.
- Teach others how to do it better.
It’s not about keeping up—it’s about reframing.
🪞 Rewriting the Story of Your Skills
As a therapist, I often use Narrative Therapy, which teaches that we all carry stories about who we are and what we can do.
Sometimes, those stories come from one person’s careless words—or one painful moment that made us doubt ourselves.
That doctor once told me I had “no skills.” For a long time, I lived inside that story. But eventually, I re-authored it.
I began to ask:
What’s the bigger, truer version of this story?
What evidence do I already have that proves my value?
Let’s say you love baking. Maybe someone once told you, “You’ll never make money baking.” But your friends light up every time you share your desserts.
The truth? You’re not just baking cookies. You’re creating connection and joy through food.
That shift—from “I just bake” to “I create belonging”—changes everything.
When you start telling a new story about your skills, you don’t just reframe your self-worth. You rewrite what’s possible.
🔧 Turn Your Skills Into Vision
Here’s a simple framework you can try today:
Step 1: Name the Skill.
Be honest. Even if it feels basic, write it down.
Step 2: Identify the Result.
What does that skill produce for others? Confidence, income, joy, safety, clarity?
Step 3: Expand the Vision.
Ask, “If I zoomed out, how could this skill grow, scale, or serve in a bigger way?”
✨ Example:
- Skill: Baking cookies
- Result: Brings joy and connection
- Vision: A community bakery that employs single parents or an online cookie subscription that spreads joy nationwide
When you start thinking like this, your “small” skills stop looking small. They become building blocks for your next evolution.
🌸 Final Reflection
So, what about you?
What are your skills—past or present?
What results have they created for others?
And most importantly, how could you re-author the story of what they mean?
Because sometimes, your smallest skill is actually your biggest seed for change.